1. What are the most important things you look for in a partner?
I want someone who holds their own, who likes a challenge, and who hungers for growth and personal development. They must be passionate and hungry for life.
2. What are some red flags that warn you about a potential partner?
Oh, I suppose I could list about ten million. I’ll go with the easy ones: people need to be teammates. It’s okay to disagree but you need support and loyalty on both sides (a lesson I had to learn).
3. What one thing do you need within a romantic relationship?
I need a warrior who’ll fight with me, for me, and to strengthen me. It’s my one big mistake.
4. What are some lessons that you have learned from past relationship failures? What do you hope to improve on this time/next time?
I’ve learned that I want a relationship with someone who is passionate but who also carries their own in the experience. That’s my change, my growth. I used to want to be the sole provider and caregiver and the protector and all of those roles without any kind of participation from my partner. As I got smarter, I learned that I wanted someone who could fight alongside me as well.
5. What one tip do you have for communicating better in your relationships?
Be clear. Be open. Be straightforward. Get your needs met.
6. As a writer, how does what happens in your personal life affect what you write about?
Everything I write about threads through my personal life and ends up being a lesson about business and/or life. I can’t do it any other way.
7. Any last words of advice for those who are maybe struggling with their romantic relationship right now?
Everything I did to make my romantic relationship better had to do with me making myself better. I learned a lot about me. I fixed a lot of problems in me. I invested in me. That’s what I know about relationships. Most people bring their broken selves to them and thus get broken results. Fix you first. My biggest advice.